My head cold is getting worse and worse. After a sore throat, coughing I now am completely congested. I can’t breath. Literally. My glands are swollen and my whole body hurts.
My heart hurts too, which doesn’t help…. My best friend went back to the states this summer and now her husband is back in town packing up. They aren’t coming back because they feel its time to settle back at home with their 3 children. I understand but why can’t someoneelses friend decided not to come back?
Crying doesn’t help when you already have a blocked nose. But now that I’m in bed I might as well cry and feel miserable…
Thats what I HATE about living overseas. so many people leave. Ofcourse meeting new people is great and its exciting but one day I’ll have to say good bye to those new people as well. One day I’ll be at the airport with a box of Kleenex saying goodbye and knowing we will probably never meet again… awful.
I feel sick….
Nov 29th, 2005 by Lillian
Hope you get well soon. Just got better after suffering from a shore throat myself.
It is hard to say goodbye to your friends but they still are your friends, albeit a long way away. It can be time consuming to invest in new ones but good too. A lot of people in a more settled life stop looking for new friends because it complicates their lifestyle. But imagine it from the new arrivals point of view. They move to Chiang Mai and there are people there who actively want to meet them and befriend them. That’s so good. Hope you feel better soon
I hope you feel better soon.
Sarah is right, friends will always stay friends, no matter where they are. I mean, all my friends are in New Zealand, I haven’t seen them since six years but we’re still friends. The only thing that still connects us is some odd phone calls and sporadic emails….but we all know that if we will always be there when one of us needs to have a friend.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling down, Lillian. Being sick and having a best friend leave at the same time can’t be very nice. Hope you feel better soon!
Thank you Adam, Sarah, Christina and Elemmaciltur for your kind words.
I’m feeling a little bit better today:-)
Hallo Lillian,
du hast deine Gefühle wirklich gut beschrieben, ‘mann’ kann sich richtig in deine Lage hineinversetzen.
Manchmal hör ich von Scheidungen und stelle mir das fürchterlich vor. Frage mich wie man sowas überlebt und dabei einigermassen normal bleibt. Andererseits ist es in diesen Fällen wohl ein langsames Sterben der Beziehung und die Trennung eine natürliche Konsequents davon.
In deinem Fall könnt ich mir vorstellen, dass die Gefahr besteht neue Beziehungen gar nicht mehr so tief zu bauen (evt. sogar unbewusst). Das ist sicher auch Typen abhängig.
Wünsch dir und deiner Familie eine gute Zeit!
Mänu
Sarah is right. Meeting new people and making new friends is really important. The true friends will always remain friends wherever they are.
I am terrible at Goodbyes, it’s so incredibly heartbreaking to loose people. Best Wishes with meeting new people! Your orchids are beautiful by the way!
I know what you mean. I lose about one close friend a year and probably another two acquantances per year to either moving back home or moving on to a third country. New people come, but those goodbyes are awful