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Expat in Chiang Mai..

Dec 2nd, 2005 by Lillian

As you know I spent 2 days in bed. Yes, I had a bad cold but I was also just incredibly sad and for the first time in my life, I stayed in bed and didn’t do anything. I can totally recommend it. Hey, I’m a nurse, I know that the best thing to do when you are sick with a cold is to rest and drink tea. Try it ! Stay in BED.. and you will heal much faster.

I thought about friends. I agree with Sarah and Mr. Haddock that friends stay friends forever. I’ve got loads of what I could call best friends. I tried to figure out how many I have. I probably have about 3 best friends (usually) and they leave about every 2 years. I’m 36 yrs. old and if you can do the math you know how many ‘best friends’ I have.
The thing IS when they leave they leave an empty space. I can’t call Mrs. D and go out with her, meet for a coffee, bring her my kids when they are driving me mad. She’s still my friend but she’s not HERE. I think its the NOT HERE part which is really hard to deal with.

Posted in Everyday Life in Thailand | 10 Comments

10 Responses to “Expat in Chiang Mai..”

on 02 Dec 2005 at 12:22 pm1Richard

I hope you are much better and less sad … and thanks for your visits. I’ve not been online as much as usual do to connectivity issues - this morning I snagged and open wireless connection.
Be well …
Richard
on 02 Dec 2005 at 2:34 pm2Sarah Mackenzie

I do sympathise. Here in France I too miss our close friends, but you are right what I miss most is the spontaneity. Just being able to meet up for a coffee and a chat. I miss their presence. Hopefully a little self-pampering will help - as long as you don’t become bed-bound
on 02 Dec 2005 at 6:31 pm3bangkok expat mama

no matter how long one has lived as an expat, farewell’ing real friends never becomes any easier. i’m sorry about your friend’s departure. you deserve some weepy moments over this. but i’m glad you’re back on your feet and grocery shopping and able to appreciate the beauty of your orchids.
on 03 Dec 2005 at 11:39 pm4Kashmiri

Hey hope you all the best.

True friends are a blessing and real rare to find. I hope you can fill the empty space with another good friend soon!
on 04 Dec 2005 at 3:11 pm5J

I could have written your post, and have done so quite a few times in my head. I completely understand and wish you the best of luck in finding a replacement friend.
on 05 Dec 2005 at 6:32 pm6jayred

Sali! Thanks for visiting my blog.

I can relate to this entry on two counts. First, the best thing to do when one is sick (z.B. flu) is to stay in bed, and yes, drink tea (Swiss kind?). Second, it’s hard when friends leave us. My Filipino friend in Basel, for example, moved back to the Philippines with her family in February. I also left many old friends in Manila when I migrated to Switzerland. It’s something that’s hard to swallow.
on 06 Dec 2005 at 6:30 am7Lillian

btw.. I drunk lemongrass tea
I feel better and less sad. All these comments made me feel better ! thanx !
on 06 Dec 2005 at 8:01 am8Gabriella

Lillian,
Like you to know that I think of you often.

Happy St. Nicklaus day.
Did you have your children put there shoe infront of ther bedroom door and fill it up with treats over night?.. did you ever do it as a child?
Enjoyed your St. Martin article!
You all are in my prayer often……..
Gabriella
on 10 Dec 2005 at 7:14 am9Bill

Look after yourself, I admire you for residing in Thailand.
on 10 Dec 2005 at 7:16 am10Bill

Can you help me with moving to Thailand, I have stayed their twice before.

Could you email me and chat as friends.

Kind regards

Bill